Comments on: The Art of Saying No http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/2010/07/31/the-art-of-saying-no/ Changing HR one post at a time. Tue, 24 Apr 2012 16:05:58 +0000 hourly 1 By: mark.stelzner http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/2010/07/31/the-art-of-saying-no/comment-page-1/#comment-31824 mark.stelzner Wed, 11 Aug 2010 23:35:26 +0000 http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/?p=599#comment-31824 Great points Dennis, thanks. Question - Did your confidence in saying "no" come from training or simply surviving the "no" experience time and time again? I think many struggle to get through that first instance of standing up for what they believe is right. Great points Dennis, thanks. Question – Did your confidence in saying “no” come from training or simply surviving the “no” experience time and time again? I think many struggle to get through that first instance of standing up for what they believe is right.

]]> By: mark.stelzner http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/2010/07/31/the-art-of-saying-no/comment-page-1/#comment-31823 mark.stelzner Wed, 11 Aug 2010 23:33:47 +0000 http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/?p=599#comment-31823 Thanks Chris. I was just talking to someone today about saying no to clients. It's tough for many to do and especially so if you're having a tough month or quarter. Thanks for stopping by. Thanks Chris. I was just talking to someone today about saying no to clients. It’s tough for many to do and especially so if you’re having a tough month or quarter. Thanks for stopping by.

]]> By: Both the HR and Leadership Development Carnivals are up! « TalentedApps http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/2010/07/31/the-art-of-saying-no/comment-page-1/#comment-31822 Both the HR and Leadership Development Carnivals are up! « TalentedApps Wed, 11 Aug 2010 19:50:31 +0000 http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/?p=599#comment-31822 [...] Mark Stelzner‘s The Art of Saying No [...] [...] Mark Stelzner‘s The Art of Saying No [...]

]]> By: Dennis Baker http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/2010/07/31/the-art-of-saying-no/comment-page-1/#comment-31817 Dennis Baker Wed, 11 Aug 2010 14:02:51 +0000 http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/?p=599#comment-31817 IMHO Saying "No" is born of Confidence. If you are confident in yourself, your opinion and position saying no is not all that difficult. As they say in the movies, "Man Up"!! However no for no's sake is not optimal - you should have an alternative that you can get behind and support. Negotiation from there and presto, a better answer... IMHO Saying “No” is born of Confidence. If you are confident in yourself, your opinion and position saying no is not all that difficult. As they say in the movies, “Man Up”!!

However no for no’s sake is not optimal – you should have an alternative that you can get behind and support. Negotiation from there and presto, a better answer…

]]> By: Chris Jordan http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/2010/07/31/the-art-of-saying-no/comment-page-1/#comment-31816 Chris Jordan Wed, 11 Aug 2010 13:47:53 +0000 http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/?p=599#comment-31816 Great article and great topic! Ah... saying no. In my business, the no's I generally have to give are to prospective clients who are just not quite a fit for what I do. I'd love to work with everyone, but understanding who is a fit and who isn't is critical... to any business really. And I agree with Dave Ryan's comment above; "by not saying no we find ourselves overwhelmed or disappointed, or sometimes just plain mad that we didn’t." Spot on. Great article and great topic! Ah… saying no. In my business, the no’s I generally have to give are to prospective clients who are just not quite a fit for what I do. I’d love to work with everyone, but understanding who is a fit and who isn’t is critical… to any business really. And I agree with Dave Ryan’s comment above; “by not saying no we find ourselves overwhelmed or disappointed, or sometimes just plain mad that we didn’t.” Spot on.

]]> By: mark.stelzner http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/2010/07/31/the-art-of-saying-no/comment-page-1/#comment-31815 mark.stelzner Wed, 11 Aug 2010 02:21:16 +0000 http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/?p=599#comment-31815 Good point James. I think many tend to second guess their own logic or intuition and therefore never stand up for themselves. It's only later that they play, "I should have said [blank]." Good point James. I think many tend to second guess their own logic or intuition and therefore never stand up for themselves. It’s only later that they play, “I should have said [blank].”

]]> By: mark.stelzner http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/2010/07/31/the-art-of-saying-no/comment-page-1/#comment-31814 mark.stelzner Wed, 11 Aug 2010 02:20:19 +0000 http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/?p=599#comment-31814 Excellent advice Mary Jo, thank you. What would you suggest for the introverts out there? I know this issue is doubly challenging for many of them. Excellent advice Mary Jo, thank you. What would you suggest for the introverts out there? I know this issue is doubly challenging for many of them.

]]> By: mark.stelzner http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/2010/07/31/the-art-of-saying-no/comment-page-1/#comment-31813 mark.stelzner Wed, 11 Aug 2010 02:19:29 +0000 http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/?p=599#comment-31813 I think your diagnosis of the situation may be correct but part of my really did want to say no. Unfortunately his foot injury was only temporary. :) Thanks for the comment Dan! I think your diagnosis of the situation may be correct but part of my really did want to say no. Unfortunately his foot injury was only temporary. :) Thanks for the comment Dan!

]]> By: James http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/2010/07/31/the-art-of-saying-no/comment-page-1/#comment-31809 James Tue, 10 Aug 2010 08:14:50 +0000 http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/?p=599#comment-31809 Yeah, also it's a lot of confidence in saying NO. You have to believe the reason for you saying no is the best, and you have to stand fully behind it with full confidence. People will respect that. Yeah, also it’s a lot of confidence in saying NO. You have to believe the reason for you saying no is the best, and you have to stand fully behind it with full confidence. People will respect that.

]]> By: Mary Jo Asmus http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/2010/07/31/the-art-of-saying-no/comment-page-1/#comment-31804 Mary Jo Asmus Sun, 08 Aug 2010 18:52:28 +0000 http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/?p=599#comment-31804 Great article and comments, Mark. The hardest thing is to catch yourself before you say that automatic "yes". And for us extroverts, I'd add that talking it out with someone you trust is a good strategy once you've caught it and decided to sleep on it. We tend to think out loud, and speaking is a way of getting clarity. Great article and comments, Mark. The hardest thing is to catch yourself before you say that automatic “yes”. And for us extroverts, I’d add that talking it out with someone you trust is a good strategy once you’ve caught it and decided to sleep on it. We tend to think out loud, and speaking is a way of getting clarity.

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