Comments on: The Definitive Response http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/2010/06/14/the-definitive-response/ Changing HR one post at a time. Tue, 24 Apr 2012 16:05:58 +0000 hourly 1 By: Amateurs and Professionals – HRSouthwest 2010 http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/2010/06/14/the-definitive-response/comment-page-1/#comment-32122 Amateurs and Professionals – HRSouthwest 2010 Tue, 19 Oct 2010 19:56:41 +0000 http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/?p=435#comment-32122 [...] I effectively “Stelznered” myself (a verb defined as rendering one speechless due to a definitive statement). It was an amateur move and represented the culmination of my frustrations following a long and [...] [...] I effectively “Stelznered” myself (a verb defined as rendering one speechless due to a definitive statement). It was an amateur move and represented the culmination of my frustrations following a long and [...]

]]> By: Sean Cook http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/2010/06/14/the-definitive-response/comment-page-1/#comment-31657 Sean Cook Mon, 21 Jun 2010 14:09:08 +0000 http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/?p=435#comment-31657 Thanks Mark, Good advice. I tend to be one of those people who thinks a step or two ahead and get excited about some idea and then just zing back and forth, so it's the talking over people that I struggle with the most. If you ever read On the Road, the scene where Sal's friends stay up all night talking about "it," and then in the morning they "dance down the street" and he "shambles after them"-to me, that's a perfect conversation. But in real life, I guess people are just trign to get a word in edgewise. I'll give your tips a try and report back sometime soon about my progress in the struggle. : ) Thanks Mark,

Good advice. I tend to be one of those people who thinks a step or two ahead and get excited about some idea and then just zing back and forth, so it’s the talking over people that I struggle with the most.

If you ever read On the Road, the scene where Sal’s friends stay up all night talking about “it,” and then in the morning they “dance down the street” and he “shambles after them”-to me, that’s a perfect conversation. But in real life, I guess people are just trign to get a word in edgewise.

I’ll give your tips a try and report back sometime soon about my progress in the struggle. : )

]]> By: mark.stelzner http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/2010/06/14/the-definitive-response/comment-page-1/#comment-31656 mark.stelzner Mon, 21 Jun 2010 13:32:27 +0000 http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/?p=435#comment-31656 @Sean - Great question and I've faced the same issue. From what I've read (and heard), I think the difference is actually opening up and inviting other voices into the conversation. Pass the verbal baton by asking those around you to throw in a story, avoid yes/no questions and try not to talk over people when they do finally pipe up. Let me know if any of those work for you and good luck! :) @Sean – Great question and I’ve faced the same issue. From what I’ve read (and heard), I think the difference is actually opening up and inviting other voices into the conversation. Pass the verbal baton by asking those around you to throw in a story, avoid yes/no questions and try not to talk over people when they do finally pipe up. Let me know if any of those work for you and good luck! :)

]]> By: Sean Cook http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/2010/06/14/the-definitive-response/comment-page-1/#comment-31655 Sean Cook Sun, 20 Jun 2010 05:03:01 +0000 http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/?p=435#comment-31655 I can really appreciate this. I have been the guy who tells some story and shuts down the conversation plenty of times, when I was actually trying to share something (story, philosophical point, or whatever) and get others to join in and actually have a conversation. How do you go about finding the line between good story-telling and point-making and shutting the conversation down? I've always been a tangential guy, full of stories, and pretty quick to share my opinion on what people ought to do. I hate that some people just don't like that. I don't intend to be boorish. How do you deal with it? Sean I can really appreciate this. I have been the guy who tells some story and shuts down the conversation plenty of times, when I was actually trying to share something (story, philosophical point, or whatever) and get others to join in and actually have a conversation.

How do you go about finding the line between good story-telling and point-making and shutting the conversation down?

I’ve always been a tangential guy, full of stories, and pretty quick to share my opinion on what people ought to do. I hate that some people just don’t like that. I don’t intend to be boorish. How do you deal with it?

Sean

]]> By: mark.stelzner http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/2010/06/14/the-definitive-response/comment-page-1/#comment-31653 mark.stelzner Thu, 17 Jun 2010 16:16:15 +0000 http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/?p=435#comment-31653 @HR Minion - Thanks Shauna. Nothing beats killing a conversation on a live radio show. Congrats to you and Steve for continuing to crush it with HR Happy Hour! The shows keep getting better and better. :) @HR Minion – Thanks Shauna. Nothing beats killing a conversation on a live radio show. Congrats to you and Steve for continuing to crush it with HR Happy Hour! The shows keep getting better and better. :)

]]> By: HR Minion http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/2010/06/14/the-definitive-response/comment-page-1/#comment-31651 HR Minion Wed, 16 Jun 2010 11:59:03 +0000 http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/?p=435#comment-31651 For all your ability to "Stelzner" an audience, I think your self-awareness and humility around it already means you aren't part of the a**hole club. Besides, I love when you do it on the HR Happy Hour, it's hilarious. For all your ability to “Stelzner” an audience, I think your self-awareness and humility around it already means you aren’t part of the a**hole club. Besides, I love when you do it on the HR Happy Hour, it’s hilarious.

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