Comments on: What Costume Are You Wearing? http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/2009/10/28/what-costume-are-you-wearing/ Changing HR one post at a time. Sat, 31 Jul 2010 22:34:28 +0000 hourly 1 By: Dallas Bragg http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/2009/10/28/what-costume-are-you-wearing/comment-page-1/#comment-18786 Dallas Bragg Tue, 03 Nov 2009 12:43:46 +0000 http://www.inflexionadvisors.com/blog/?p=202#comment-18786 This is very applicable to the state of mind I have found myself in before. I would paint on a happy, excited face for my division manager or direct supervisor so that they would "feel" good about my morale and job performance. And, heck, they would reinforce this behavior by looking over mistakes or gaps in performance just because I had "the right attitude". While inside I felt like I was rotting. I did feel trapped. I learned from that experience to be more transparent. I have tried to be open with those around me and risk the negative perception that comes with not having the eternal grin. Thanks for this because it is making me wonder how my subordinates really feel and what I can do to change their feelings about their job. Dallas This is very applicable to the state of mind I have found myself in before. I would paint on a happy, excited face for my division manager or direct supervisor so that they would “feel” good about my morale and job performance. And, heck, they would reinforce this behavior by looking over mistakes or gaps in performance just because I had “the right attitude”. While inside I felt like I was rotting. I did feel trapped. I learned from that experience to be more transparent. I have tried to be open with those around me and risk the negative perception that comes with not having the eternal grin. Thanks for this because it is making me wonder how my subordinates really feel and what I can do to change their feelings about their job.

Dallas

]]> By: mark.stelzner http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/2009/10/28/what-costume-are-you-wearing/comment-page-1/#comment-18452 mark.stelzner Thu, 29 Oct 2009 22:41:26 +0000 http://www.inflexionadvisors.com/blog/?p=202#comment-18452 @Laurie - I feel much closer to you now. :) @Kevin - Great comments Kevin, thank you. I'm glad you've found "the way". So sorry for the morose post here all. Had a bad day and took it out on the world. What costume am I wearing, you ask? That of someone who gets frustrated and needs to rant. @Laurie – I feel much closer to you now. :)

@Kevin – Great comments Kevin, thank you. I’m glad you’ve found “the way”.

So sorry for the morose post here all. Had a bad day and took it out on the world. What costume am I wearing, you ask? That of someone who gets frustrated and needs to rant.

]]> By: Kevin W. Grossman http://inflexionadvisors.com/blog/2009/10/28/what-costume-are-you-wearing/comment-page-1/#comment-18419 Kevin W. Grossman Thu, 29 Oct 2009 13:39:19 +0000 http://www.inflexionadvisors.com/blog/?p=202#comment-18419 I wear the "me" costume and have been fortunate to work for a firm that elevates its team to be who they are inside and outside of work. We have artists, writers, laughter yoga instructors (yep), runners, cat lovers, dog lovers, baby lovers - all wrapped up with a delicious chewy nougat engaged-employee center. Because the inside and outside have become so intertwined for many of us, especially me, there can be no Wizard of Oz curtains. I don't think there should be. I have the inherent belief that most of us are good and trustworthy folk, and the more we foster that truth, the less likely we are to wear the costumes and resent who we are in the workplace, or at home. Color me crazy, but I'm just sayin'. And like Laurie I sometimes play a housewife. I wear the “me” costume and have been fortunate to work for a firm that elevates its team to be who they are inside and outside of work. We have artists, writers, laughter yoga instructors (yep), runners, cat lovers, dog lovers, baby lovers – all wrapped up with a delicious chewy nougat engaged-employee center.

Because the inside and outside have become so intertwined for many of us, especially me, there can be no Wizard of Oz curtains. I don’t think there should be.

I have the inherent belief that most of us are good and trustworthy folk, and the more we foster that truth, the less likely we are to wear the costumes and resent who we are in the workplace, or at home. Color me crazy, but I’m just sayin’.

And like Laurie I sometimes play a housewife.

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Can’t you all see it’s just a facade?

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